Okay I haven't made two post in one day in forever. Anyway. I need to stop joining these weight loss communities online. I constantly feel like I am being bashed. Now I joined a community that said "Oh we except all people to our community. Feel free to be yourself. Don't be rude and blab blab" So they have where you have to introduce yourself before posting anywhere else.
I introduce myself and even explained my eating and exercise plan. I was bashed by 2 people saying that I was starving myself on my program, that I should see a nutritionist, that I was messing up my metabolism, and that I have lost a lot already and show slow down. Seriously? I even put at the end of my intro if you have any questions feel free to ask. They didn't ask anything but just jumped all over me. Yeah I do meal replacement shakes but I do eat. Mostly at home with my husband. I even mentioned my current exercise plan. It's not like I am on a endless fast while exercising.
One girl that responded apparently achieved her goal of losing weight and realized she doesn't like the way she looks but finds it hard to stop the eating habits she picked up along the way as she lost weight. That makes sense to me why she is trying to tell me to do something. The other girl said everything she said but added in the "you lost so much already"
You don't know shit. You have no idea what I look like. Yeah the number sounds okay to some but seeing and hearing are two different things. That does not even include the fact that my doctor told me to lose weight for the sake of my life and my back along with by height and weight I am still considered over weight.
I worked hard to get to where I am now so I am a bit upset by this. More so the second member I was talking about and not the 1st one. Yeah I think I need to stop going on these sites or just make my own and mean what I say if I was to say all are welcomed all are supported.
Ah hell, I just typed this long comment and it got deleted. Pretty much, people don't know you. Only you can Determine you're health and how you live your life. Screw other people that want to control what you do. I love you hon and you've done so well, don't let them bastards get ya down. (Ayyee rhi rhi reference)
ReplyDeleteI hate when that happens. I did that once.
DeleteThank you. I think they are young too so they may not know the right wording and how to go about what they are saying without sound judgmental. Yes indeed I am going to keep going. I am still interacting with the group but hey if they don't like it they can just as easily leave the community. It's nice to talk to people as well as support them.
I'm glad we have such a lovely community here, it's nice to have a place to go where we aren't judged and criticised.
ReplyDeleteWinter you have achieved a lot with what you have lost so far and I think it's excellent that you have been so determined and lost weight so consistently.
Also, nobody has the right to tell you when you are done losing weight, it's your body and you deserve a body that you are happy with.
It sounds to me like you achieved your weight loss so far with diet, exercise and remaining motivated, so claims that you are "starving" yourself seem unfair. Don't let them get you down :)
Alice xx
You are so right about that. I don't know what it is but the women and men on here are a lot nicer. Most of the other communities I have come across are filled with selfish teens.
DeleteThey tend to join and are only concerned about themselves. They are begging for tips, weight loss buddies, and how to get an ed. 9_9
Ed's are not something you can just get. It's either in you or it's not.
Thank you for realizing that I do use a program that works for me. Trust me, it took trail and error and I finally found something I can stick to. This works for me :-)
Just stick with us girls <3 We all understand and we all have the same goal to be happy with our own bodies for us and nobody else. We dont judge how we get there. I know im getting to my goal in a rediculously unhealthy way but its something i like to do and its how i do it. Meal replacements with shakes to me insnt unhealthy otherwise the doctors wouldnt put people on them. Drastic weight loss yes is bad for you but i think its more the yoyo effect thats bad. Dropping it all and then gaining it back. If you loose it and keep it off fair game. Your doing great and We will all be here for support.
ReplyDeleteLots of love.
-C xxxxxxxx
Awwwwww thanks C. I mean they haven't seen my progress pixs they just heard numbers. I sure they wouldn't be saying that. Like I shared my progress pixs with another community not one person said great job. I had 75 views and not one person said anything. I just ended up deleting it and realizing it was another community filled with selfish teens.
DeleteYes however you lose the weight, you have to keep doing it to maintain as well. That is why most people gain weight back is because they can not maintain the system they had while losing the weight.
I love my shakes. For me this is easy. I plan on upgrading it a bit when I get a better paying job. I am plan to use fresh veggies and fruits.
Most doctors put people on the shakes as a last resort. For me I was just trying it and by golly it actually worked and I like it.
Thank you for your continued support.
Not everyone can understand what we think/feel even if they even tried.. people, specially the ones on the online communities feel like they have the right to open their mouth and say whatever without actually understing what the person they are commenting on is saying.
ReplyDeleteStay healthy, and focus on your goal.. and I am sure you will reach it :) GL with everything
You are right. I try to be open even if the person has a ed. But these people are obviously stupid young teens.
DeleteI sure will. Been eating crappy the past 2 days :-( don't worry I will be getting right back on track. I will see my 168lb by the end of this week.
Weightloss communities are always like that unless they're explicitly ED supportive. Anyways, I hope you feel better about it now.
ReplyDeleteSad thing this is an ed community but they are not pro ana. I am more ednos. I have plan on how to transfer over my eating plan to make it better long term but I am going to do that starting Phase 3 ( dec-feb ) Plus I will need to be making more money to do what I would like to, to make that transition.
DeleteThey are just jealous, which I cant understand. If its a weight loss community, then why being jealous if someone has more success? Its just like when someone points out you have lost weight and congratulates, but if they find out you have an ED, they say you haven't lost because you worked hard, but because you are sick. That's so mean, and I have been through that.
ReplyDeletePeople will always judge, but don't listen to them..you know how hard you work to achieve your goals..and we all know its a healthy diet plan. No one should tell you when to stop but yourself..
Sorry for long reply, but it just pisses me off,those jealous bitches..
PS. just stick to our supportive online community ;)
Lol I haven't had anyone be jealous of me. Especially since moving to this state. Most people at my job do think I have an ed because I do not eat with the food at my job.
DeleteI was just mad at the moment but I am good now. I am going to get to my goal and secret goal weight and then they will have a reason to be jealous. I think I have some women here on blogger that are jealous but whatever. I believe my post are out there helping somebody some where.
I leave long replies all the time :-)
Hey, if people are jealous, then you are doing something right! Don't sweat it hun. And if someone says, 'you've lost so much already', then take is as a compliment and say 'thank you' with a smile! ;)
ReplyDeleteHell, I'm jealous! But, I'm still ecstaticly happy for you!
I think you're doing amazingly.