I am trying to decide if I want to delete this blog or not. I have come to look at many of the people in this community as friends. I know not everyone can comment all the time. Shoot I can barely comment all the time myself. But for me to have been in a dark place last night and only one person. One person actually took the time to comment. Very sad and very hurtful. I mid as well go ahead and disappear because it feels like no one gives a shit.
Hey Winter
ReplyDeleteI usually dont comment on blogs (this is my first comment ever) but i really would like to tell you that i read every post of you and that i care about how you are doing. I know this may seem wierd as i never commented before, but my parents are kinda stalkerish so this is a bit of a risk :P
It is your decision if you want to delete it, but however you decide, i wish you the best of luck :)
Don't delete, I would miss you. We are not in the same time zone, so sometimes the time you post is in the middle of the night where I live, and by the time I see your post hours have passed. But don't think no one cares, that's not true, I just saw your 2 posts, so I haven't had the time to read the previous one, but I will now. And you have my full support, I'm so sorry you feel hurt..you are such a caring, loving and honest person..and I'm a big fan of you, and what you have achieve..you became a friend of mine. Sending you BIG *hugs*
ReplyDeleteNo no...not happening. If you deleted this blog, I would be blowing up your email to make sure you're okay. I've followed too many blogs where people just go and disappear, especially in a time where they're low and then I worry and there's no way to know. Just because people don't comment doesn't mean we don't care. I know I bad about reading but not commenting on everything. I personally thinks its both weird and amazing that this whole community can open up and share this struggle, though kind of anonymously. Like, some of us know each other better through the Internet than people in real life.
ReplyDeleteNo matter what we do or where we come from, we're all living out a story and right now we just happen to share the story of trying to lose weight and be able to have our ideal bodies. Some in healthy ways, some not. Its life, its not pretty, but whatever support group you can find, at least you have someone cheering you on.
You're blog is called Winter's Secret World...so I'm guessing you don't really have anyone close in real life, besides a few, that really support your weight loss. For some reason, people can degrade others for gaining weight or being unhealthy, but when it comes time to support them for making a healthy change, no one gets it. But we do. This fucked up, misfit, online community of bloggers that are old and young, fat and underweight, whatever paths of life we come from, we still get it, because somehow, we all want he same thing whether its to be perfect or lose weight or gain muscle or gain control, whatever. Or in my own personal case, kick Ana's ass into the ground and get two years of my life back.
But in this incredibly long comment, you shouldn't leave. Because I bet you that not one person is going to cheer you on and prop you up or in my case, call you out in as an accepting, nonjudgmental, loving way that these ladies do. I know that they've at least done that for me. I hope you have a change of heart and I know that this whole thing may sound bitchy and you didn't enjoy reading this, but, its what I think. I'm not saying there aren't other ways to do this, I'm just saying you'd be missed and I think you've made impact on this part of the blogosphere. I'm gonna stop typing now lol.
I love you. Take care.
Please don't. If this blog helps in any way, you should keep it. I'm sure all your reader (including me)want to keep track of your progress. Sometimes it's hard to comment because you can't think of a way to comfort the person. It doesn't mean you don't care. Either way, I hope you feel better than yesterday.
ReplyDeleteAlso maybe remove the captcha requirement for commenting. I find that it's a pain and sometimes it takes me forever to figure it out. I can't be the only one who hates it!
Yeah I also hate it, its annoying:) but only a few blogs have it removed..maybe for security reasons.
DeleteI can understand your concerns and your thoughts around deleting your blog, as people all over the world can find it and understand who's writing. But as you get comments, and followers you will lose them if you lose your blog. I've also been in your position, except that I've not gotten a whole lot of comments and people won't miss me if I delete my blogs. Now...I've never had more than once at a time, but I've had one blog before this. That was about the mentality alone, not the ED. it was before I got into those hands of evilness.
ReplyDeleteDo what you feel is the best, just know that we will miss you and your blog (now it sounds like you told us that you would commit suicide or move to the ice pole or something, but you get what I mean)!
:) Allison
Don't delete your blog Winter. I mean, it's always your choice, but it feels to me like you want to keep it and want to be able to reach out. Not everyone can comment all the time, but we do care. I know that sometimes I don't know what to say that would be helpful in any way. I'm sorry I'm not always there, but I always care.
ReplyDeleteAlice xx
Don't delete your blog because of someone who probably lives a sucky life (or why else would they do that to someone?). In case you decide to delete the blog (but I hope you won't), please leave us an e-mail to contact you and keep in touch. :)
ReplyDeleteHope you're feeling better, hun.
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You would be missed WIinter, Believe me x
ReplyDeleteHey there,
ReplyDeleteSorry your feeling neglected. You would be missed if you deleted. I love your comments, and would miss them. I have to get better at responding, its something that I am really bad about (always have been).
Will do better!
Hope your feeling better! :)
Lindsey
Don't delete. I haven't been on blogger for quite a while, but I would have commented if I'd seen it then. I don't think it's that no one cares, it's just always terrible luck when no one sees the important posts.
ReplyDeleteI remember a while ago I was suicidal and no one commented on what was essentially a suicide note, but the next morning when I calmed down I had so many comments from people who hadn't seen it before.
Never doubt that we all love you and care about you.
I hope you're okay. Take care.